There are days when things go horribly wrong when everything is coloured with the feeling of impending doom. I have never felt so helpless in my life as I felt today when I realised that I had let people down, let myself down and missed so many things. It was enough to push me into a state of crisis and sadness, pulling me down completely and making me feel utterly useless and pointless. I have very few things to worry about and I still end up screwing them up, for all my speech on wanting to be self-sufficient and dependable, I cannot even trust myself. I have lost trust in myself, I don’t believe that I can make myself pull through anymore. That is scary because I have never felt that way before (maybe the fact that I am scared means that all is not lost yet?).
There has been an underlying pool of sadness that has come to define my existence, I cannot exist without it it would seem. Everything I do rests on this base of sadness, at least that’s what I make of it. Now, I don’t mean that it has become intrinsic to me. I, for one, really hope that is not the case, that there’s nothing intrinsically sorrowful about my existence and myself. But then, it is extremely deceptive and I definitely feel like this has become my “natural” state of being (once you start reading Literary Theory, words like natural, being, etc start to seem extremely limiting. i.e. they are ruined forever, you can never use them in peace anymore–that is not a bad thing!). Today, I gave the example of a clear pool, a perfectly still pool to describe this sadness within me. There are small ripples that occur on its surface, small moments of joy and happiness, but they are all ultimately rooted in, find their existence in that pool of sadness. It was a pretty good analogy (and some might say that it is extremely lit major-esque, which I will gladly take as a compliment–I need validation about my major choice)
My right ear has been aching since today morning. It started in the morning and as the day progressed, only seems to have gotten worse. I have been tearing up in almost all of my classes, helpless tears as I was hit with pain and sadness. I tried my best to pass it off as my eyes just watering from the cold but somehow I have a feeling that someone might have noticed. Maybe I wanted someone to notice it, maybe I found some perverse pleasure in showing off my pain and getting the attention of other people? I don’t really have any answers for myself, might as well add more questions to the list. I can already imagine what a sensible Yashasvi might think of all this, she would think it is all worth a rat’s arse and that I need to get my shit under control. I would agree, I do need to do that but I am helpless at the moment, or at least I feel that way and that impacts the way I look at and respond to things around me.
I slept for nearly four and a half hours today evening when I excused myself from my flute class (owing to the pain in my ear) and came back to my room. I took a painkiller and decided that I needed sleep. The plan was to wake up in an hour and a half, get to dinner, work, go for a quiz, return, work some more. The day was extremely tiring and I was functioning on only a few hours of sleep, it seemed a good enough plan to get back on track. But that worked out really well when I ended up missing dinner, missing the quiz, waking up nearly three hours later than I wanted to. No one knew what had happened to me and I had gotten so used to being taken care of that I stopped taking care of myself. When people did not come to find me and ensure I was awake, I had ended up sleeping through my alarm. That is quite ‘alarm’ing (pardon my juvenile 2am humour) and it is a lesson on self-sufficiency. I need to learn to be there for myself from now onwards, I cannot let myself be ruined because I cannot take care of myself. I need to start being there for myself and this sounds easier on paper (or screen) but that’s okay. I have an appointment counsellor tomorrow, I can still turn this around I hope?
And that’s my memory for the day.